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Long before we have even roasted the turkey, we are pushed to go shopping for Holiday gift-giving. I am feeling old and stodgy when I say that (in my day…) we used to celebrate one holiday at a time. But I am not so jaded… (And I am not THAT old!)

At the same time that we are distracted from enjoying the holidays by believing we already need to be preparing the “stuff” for the next one, it is heartening to see a new wave of mindfulness.

On Thanksgiving,  my sister-in-law’s young grandson showed us the yoga pose he had learned in school. A client, who is a teacher, informed me that they teach  meditation techniques in the Head Start program where she works. I see hope.

What do you really want out of the Holiday Season? What is the meaning for you? Are you diminishing the value of the season for yourself in getting distracted by all the To-Dos?

Just as I once read in tips for meditation: 15 minutes per day is great, unless you are very busy, then 30 minutes per day is suggested.

My advice: Slow down. Take time to recharge–sharpen the saw, as Stephen Covey called it. Meditate for 5 minutes before getting out of the car after parking. Stop and take 6 conscious breaths. Pause and notice the sunrise.

The renewed energy and clarity of mind will make up for the time spent. And, who knows, you might just enjoy the Holidays more!



Looking through my photos, an obvious theme emerges: Nature, and specifically Sunrise. If I am not directly viewing one, I live vicariously through FB Friends. I never tire of sunrise.

Each and every moment leading up to the sun peaking over the horizon, is savored. Captivating. The play of subtle shades on the water accentuates the lines of the waves and lends an air of an oil painting to the ocean and sky. The sights, smells, sounds, and feel of the breeze combine to engage all senses in a perfectly orchestrated commencement of each day. Not foretelling, but rather reaching perfection in each step; a string of complete experiences unfolding into a whole, perfect story.

Such is each and every moment of our lives. I believe that to savor each moment as the complete experience that it is, would be the way to honor and enjoy the whole, perfect story of life and ourselves.

There is no condition to meet for perfection to exist. There is nothing to do. It is a matter of perspective. To be open to perceiving the beauty and perfection is not always our first reaction, and yet it is there. Remind yourself of other instances in which, in retrospect, things turned out exactly as–or even better–than desired/imagined.

Breathe deep, and take a closer look/listen/sniff/feel. This moment is unique. It may be difficult to see a sharp, uncomfortable situation as perfect. It is like a tile in the mosaic of your story. Seen alone, it may not convey much, and as part of the whole, it is exactly right–lending contrast, framing, enhancing, continuing a theme, adding accent, etc.

Live and enjoy each moment. And in this way, your perfect life story will unfold and be told.



Driving from Tennessee back to Florida I had some time to reflect on life. So I was wide open to ideas and impressions. A good thing, since one never knows when an inspiration will strike. Luckily, I was aware enough to get the inspiration and not get into an accident.

I was driving on a two-lane road, which was a switch after miles of multi-lane highway, and for some reason I was focused on the van in front of the car in front of me. I saw it slowing down, and reacted accordingly. Yet, I was so focused on the van, and was not paying complete attention to the car directly in front of me.

The car was braking at a much faster rate than the van–or I! In that moment of readjustment, I realized that I/we often tend to do the same thing in life–we focus on something that “will happen” in the future and ignore what is happening right now, right in front of us, directly under our noses.

If I had not been mindful of the car in front of me, I would have crashed into it, and it wouldn’t have mattered what the van was doing, I would have altered my trajectory. Likewise, when you focus on something that may or may not happen in the future, you ignore the now–the steps that lead you into the future. You alter your trajectory.

By staying mindful of the present, the here and now, you lay the foundation for the future of your making, not one overly influenced by external circumstances; you follow your path step by step. You stay in alignment with your self, with your values. You create what you desire  by staying true to now, with no attachment to a specific outcome

Letting go to receive.

Be shortsighted. Be in the now.

I am going to go out on a limb—or a flagpole, as it were. I just heard again some coverage regarding South Carolina and the flag. The person being interviewed said that it should not be at the State Capitol, which is a place for everyone, and no one should have to drive past there and feel pain. But rather it should be in a museum where it can be honored appropriately.

First of all, what is appropriate? For whom? At what time?

Second, how are you going to affect that someone honors the flag in whatever way is deemed appropriate?

In addition, if someone feels pain, is it because of the symbol or is it because of what they tell themselves, what story they have about that symbol in their mind? So, what should be changed: The story or the symbol?

What are symbols anyway? Isn’t it just something that evokes a story in our mind? So, what is it that has the power: The symbol or the story?

I remember a while ago hearing a story about a black man, who adopted the Confederate flag, or whatever it’s called, because it is not just the Confederate flag, it was a flag before that and there is a name for it (I must research this further). He adopted it as his own; he had it proudly waving on his car. As you can imagine, some Blacks on one side, and some Whites on the other side, had different reactions to his adoption of that symbol.

He owned that flag. He refused to let someone else tell him what story to make up about it. It was amusing to see how, on the one hand, some people were horrified that he could adopt it. But he realized it was just a symbol, and he hoped others would embrace the same philosophy towards this symbol. It was amazing how some of the white men he encountered all of a sudden rejected the symbol; they wanted to have nothing to do with it. So, he helped them change their story about it. He might not have changed their way of thinking immediately, but at least the symbol they had wielded like a weapon was relinquished. This can ultimately diffuse the hate and fear behind a symbol, because it no longer has one rationale on which to cling or one single story which to propagate. Rather than upholding mental bondage, a symbol is slowly sapped of power.

Is that not the more effective way of honoring a symbol? To see it for what it is?

The more we uphold what it stands for—the story based on one time frame, based on hate and fear—the more that is real. And directly or indirectly, even if you don’t want to, that upholds it, that honors that story of hate and fear. What he was doing was turning it into love—seeing the reality occluded by the fear. He was seeing it for the symbol that it was—nothing more and nothing less.

In the same way, that is the lesson we can implement in our every day lives: to take behaviors that we see from our friends, family, and colleagues as symbols. We are the ones, who write the story about it. We are the ones who interpret it, attach meaning to it for ourselves. They are just symbols and we make of them what we want to make of them.

The person in traffic who …, the friend who didn’t …, or the colleague who …

What story are you telling yourself? Is it based on Fear, or is it based on Love?  ~BlinkNFlow

Idiom: Whistling Dixie–If someone is whistling Dixie, they talk about things in a more positive way than the reality. [Whose reality? ;-)]

Universal Law set to music by Rodgers & Hammerstein: My Favorite Things sung by Julie Andrews?

Sound of Music is the stuff of my childhood. I loved watching and singing along. Is that why I lived in Salzburg for so many years, passing by the Do-Re-Mi Pegasus fountain almost on a daily basis?!

Regardless, today as I finished up a coaching call in which my client was working through how to keep his vibration up, I drove away, and turned on the radio. A jazz rendition of My Favorite Things can on. The universe is so perfect! I laughed out loud (after I had sung as much of the lyrics as I could remember).

How can one shift thoughts to positive ones that raise the vibration? Listen and sing along with Julie Andrews!

Raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens, bright copper kettles and warm woolen mittens…!

Happy Manifesting.

ps: I request, however, that you not serve/eat schnitzel with noodles. What a faux pas! Schnitzel is always served with potatoes. 😉


Salzburg, Austria

The Decade – Another Building Block of Life

Das Jahrzehnt – Noch ein Baustein des Lebens


The colors are a bit dim—this was November, after all—November 2011 in Salzburg, Austria. Pictured here is the view of the Fortress from Mirabell Garden. Mirabell Palace is on the left. Built in 1606, this was home to the Archbishop’s lover, Salome Alt, and her 15 children—at the time the palace and gardens were outside the city proper. [pun intended] This was just one of my fantastic daily views as I went about my business for 15 years of my life (and one in Vienna) between 1989 and 2005.

Die Farben sind ein wenig trüb—es war immerhin November—November 2011 in Salzburg, Österreich. Im Foto ist die Festung Hohensalzburg von Mirabellgarten zu sehen. Auf der linken Seite steht das Schloss, 1606 erbaut. Schloss Mirabell hauste Salome Alt, die Geliebte des Erzbischofs, und ihre 15 Kindern. Zu dieser Zeit liegt das Schloss außerhalb der Stadtgrenzen. Dieser Blick war nur ein meiner wunderschönen täglichen Ansichten meines Alltags als ich in Österreich wohnte—15 Jahre in Salzburg; ein Jahr in Wien—von 1989 zu 2005.

On July 5, 2005, I made the move I had previously thought I never would (so much for the old saying!). For the promise of starting up a business with my brilliant sister, I moved back to the United States. It took years for my shen to catch up to me; some might say it still hasn’t! [Please pardon the TCM talk.] Anyone, who knows me, though, is aware of how my heart still beats for Austria; that will likely always be so.

Obwohl ich mir gedacht habe, dass ich nie wieder hier leben würde, am 5. Juli 2005 kehrte ich in die Vereinigten Staaten zurück. Um ein Geschäft mit meiner superklugen Schwester zu gründen, bin ich übersiedelt. Es hat Jahre gedauert bis mein shen mich wieder eingeholt hat. Manche würden meinen, dass dies immer noch nicht der Fall ist! [Ein kleiner TCM Wink] Jeder der mich kennt weißt wie mein Herz noch für Österreich schlägt. Das wird wahrscheinlich immer so bleiben.


Well, for one, I have great friends in Austria, and the beauty of the city and surroundings certainly make it very pleasant to live there. I have not lived in any other place longer—these were definitely formative years. How fortunate I am to have experienced the culture, the people, the language, the food, the perspective, the climate, the lifestyle, and so much more! Having been exposed to these broader horizons gave me a wider spectrum from which to choose for my own ways of being. That, for me, is the beauty of travel and living in different countries.

Erstens kenne ich großartige Menschen in Österreich, und die Schönheit der Stadt und Umgebung bilden eine sehr angenehme Lebenskulisse. Nirgendwo habe ich so lange auf einem Ort gewohnt. Diese Lebensjahre haben mich sehr geprägt. Wie glücklich bin ich, dass ich die Kultur, die Menschen, die Sprache, die Küche, die Ansichten, das Klima, den Lebensstil, und vieles Mehr erleben dürfte! Diese Erfahrungen haben bestimmt meinen Horizont erweitert und mir mehr Möglichkeiten der Selbstverwirklichung zur Verfügung gestellt haben. Ist das nicht der Sinn von Reisen und Auslandsaufenthalte? (Zumindest einer davon…)


Ten years after I relocated to the West Side of the puddle (a.k.a. the Atlantic Ocean), I am amazed that it has been that long. Sometimes, I am amazed that I am still here…! But that is a different story. Time really has zipped by! In that decade so much has happened.

Zehn Jahre danach, bin ich erstaunt, dass schon ein Jahrzehnt vergangen ist! Manchmal bin ich erstaunt, dass ich noch in den USA wohne! Das ist jedoch ein anderes Thema. Wo ist die Zeit geblieben?! In dieser Zeit habe ich doch sehr viel erlebt.

In retrospect, the things that stand out are 1) I got to run a business with my sister, who is not only the greatest sister of all times, but also the greatest business partner!, 2) I got & get to live on the same continent with my family, 3) I became a certified Life Coach, 4) I worked with the visionary Luis Vasquez at the Yantalo Peru Foundation, in the USA and Peru, 5) I got to start studying Acupuncture & Oriental Medicine, and 6) I am getting to meet amazing people, who keep teaching me, broadening my horizons, and helping me grow.

Im Hinblick die Ereignisse die mich am meisten geprägt haben sind die folgenden:

  • Ich dürfte ein Geschäft mit meiner Schwester gründen (sie ist die allerbeste Schwester UND die allerbeste Geschäftspartnerin!);
  • Ich dürfte & darf am selben Kontinent mit meiner Familie wohnen;
  • Ich bin ein Life Coach geworden;
  • Ich dürfte mit dem Visionär, Luis Vasquez, für die Yantalo Peru Stiftung arbeiten—in den USA und Peru;
  • Ich dürfte mein Akupunktur/TCM Studium anfangen; und
  • Ich darf weiterhin neue großartige Menschen kennenlernen—Menschen, die dafür sorgen, dass ich lerne und weiterentwickle.

Despite the bittersweet goodbye I bade Austria, and the fact that I often wish I could have all my favorite people closer to me, I am clear that where I am is perfect.

Obgleich ich mich mit schwerem Herzen von Österreich Abschied genommen habe und ich lieber alle meiner liebsten Menschen um mich hätte, ist mir klar, dass wo ich bin perfekt ist.

My good friend, Silvia, during our conversation around my decision to move to the USA, felt that I should look inside for change, rather than make a location change. Every day, I thank her for that advice. I completely agree with her that a shift in perspective brings profound change, and most likely I could have stayed in Austria and I would be writing of different experiences and memories with just as much passion.

Damals im Gespräch mit Silvia, einer guten Freundin, über meine Entscheidung in die USA zurückzukehren, hat sie mir nahegelegt, dass ich anstatt einer äußerlichen Veränderung, eine innere Veränderung herbeiführen sollte. Täglich bedanke ich mich bei Ihr für diesen Rat. Ich stimme zu, dass ein Perspektivwechsel tiefgründige Veränderungen bewirkt. Höchstwahrscheinlich hätte ich in Österreich bleiben können und würde ich jetzt über andere Erfahrungen und Erinnerungen mit genau so viel Leidenschaft berichten.

And yet exactly the specifics of my changes and experiences have led me here. Just as the ones leading up to me falling in love with an Austrian (and consequently with Austria), led me on another journey in 1989. And I am the sum total. Do I miss dear friends, my magical Fuschlsee, the majestic mountains, and the more human cultural attitudes? YES! Mostly, though, I am so incredibly grateful that I can count these as part of my experiences, part of me. I love life and life just keeps loving me!

Jedoch sind es exakt die Einzelheiten meiner Veränderungen und Erfahrungen, die mich hierher geführt haben. Genauso als damals die Einzelheiten meines Lebens haben es ermöglicht, dass ich mich 1989 in einen Österreicher (und dann auch Österreich) verliebt habe, und ein neues Kapitel meines Lebens beginnen dürfte. Das gesamte Buch ist mein Leben—das bin ich. Natürlich vermisse ich solche tollen Freunde, und gerne würde ich wieder um den zauberhaften Fuschlsee gehen oder durch die majestätischen Berge wandern! Am meisten bin ich aber dankbar, dass ich diese Erfahrungen zu den eigenen zählen darf. Ich liebe das Leben und das Leben liebt mich weiterhin!

Thank you! Vielen Dank!



In fear we cling tight
To the known, sinking stone and

Drown in a droplet.

Be strong, surrender.

Breathe in your desire and Be.

Your wings await you.

This is Sarina coming at you with BlinknFlow.

Why this blog?  What does BlinknFlow mean?

This blog is taking its first baby steps, well, actually just getting its first peek of the wide world out there, and working towards taking those first steps.  BlinknFlow is the birth of a coach.  You will be able to follow the stages of learning, the processing of information, and development of ideas and concepts as I move toward this goal.  So, please join me on this transformational, inspirational, and informational journey.  I welcome travel companions with their ideas and feedback – these are the necessary forces that interact to keep the project in motion, akin to the physical forces that accelerate and keep a planet or comet in orbit and on its path.  This path may seem circular, but it does not necessarily remain the same.  Perhaps it is more of a spiral, building on a foundation, continually exploring new territory, expanding, incorporating new information into the established.

BlinknFlow refers to two concepts that are central to me and my philosophy: intuition and harmony.  But let’s take a step back, and begin with coaching, since that is what it’s all about.  Coaching to me is about helping a person better herself and/or her life situation, to help her move forward towards a self-defined goal.  A coach helps the person help himself, helps him get more in touch with his own strengths and values in order to create and act on an action plan or make the best decision in that situation.  When this is achieved, it creates the desired harmony in life, or at least in that situation.  When, consequently, it is possible to reach this harmony with less and less conscious effort or focus on the details, it can lead to a feeling of Flow.   Flow is a feeling of being in sync, when everything seems effortless, automatic, smooth.

A part of achieving Flow is trusting one’s instincts or – I would argue – intuition.  Our intuition is that well of knowledge we have within.   In my mind’s eye I can see this well, its cylindrical form drawn by that spiral of learning I mentioned above.  As the spiral rises, the well deepens.  The knowledge base grows and the connections between the pieces of information strengthen and become a network of interconnected ideas, or concepts, working values, and a philosophy.  This is our intuition, through which we can filter pieces of information, to very rapidly – in the blink of an eye – make decisions.  In our language, we often refer to making decisions based on a gut feeling, without even having to think.  Our senses take in the information, filter it through our intuition, and seemingly instantly we have made a decision.  When examined more closely, taking time to sort out the information that was taken in through our senses, we see in retrospect the pieces of the puzzle that correspond to our knowledge base.  But this knowledge is so compact and interconnected, we don’t have to go through each piece one at a time, the conclusion is seemingly automated.  This is the end result of much of our learning.  To represent the use of and trust in our own intuition, I have made use of the term “Blink”, the title of Malcolm Gladwell’s book, Blink: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking.

This is my view of and my wish for coaching.  For me, I am starting out learning the baby steps of what goes into being an excellent coach.  For my future clients, please take the chance of working with me to get through a problem, an issue, a stage in life, or a difficult situation at work.  My goal is to reach the BlinknFlow stage by learning and increasing my knowledge base, becoming an excellent coach, so as to help others do the same.  The end result for both of us: to more and more often be able to use and trust our intuition, and more often achieve the desired harmony in life.

Thank you for reading, please give me your feedback and ideas.  I wish you all many BlinknFlow moments.